Working to bring change to ourselves can be easy when we are congruent, that is we are in harmony with ourselves and fully dedicated to the change. We are incongruent when we experience internal conflict which does not facilitate the process of change. Internal conflict arises when we are split between wanting to do two things at the same time but we can’t do them simultaneously. One example is when someone asks us a favour. We are internally torn between wanting to do them the favour and to continue doing what we are doing. Here, our body language and voice tone differ. We may tell them ‘yes’ but our body sign lacks the enthusiasm. The other example is when we are in a state of uncertainty between two conflicting options. One part of us wants to do something while the other has another idea to, say, have a drink at the local pub. We want to do both at the present moment. There are times when we find ourselves associated with incongruent people who make us feel unsure of ourselves as
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